Electronic Gifts: To give or not to give

Electronic Gifts: To give or not to give

By Rebecca Eberlin, Ph.D.

Even as an adult, I can’t help but get excited about the gift-giving aspect of this season. Not only do I love the look on my family’s faces as they open the gifts that I selected for them, I also enjoy the anticipation of what I might get.

On the top of many wish lists, both children’s and adults’, is something electronic. Whether it’s an iPod, computer or the latest gaming system, electronic gifts have become the gold standard. This can be a difficult gift to navigate for many parents.

Many feel pressured to give their children electronics because “all the other kids have them.” The reality is that you know your child best. We encourage parents to look at their children as unique and not base parenting decisions on what their friends or colleagues may be doing.

The benefits that electronics offer us are undeniable. In fact, research indicates that children who use the Internet become better self-directed learners. Internet use has also been linked to improved standardized reading scores.

However, without proper structure, monitoring and limit setting, many families find that the above advantages are outweighed by the trouble that arises when children get new devices. While buying electronics may not seem like a big deal, it is definitely a gift that requires discussion.

If you as a parent decide that your child is ready for the responsibility that electronics require, we encourage you to set some ground rules. Many families do not set rules until they need to. When introducing electronics, it is best to know how you will monitor your child’s use of technology and what your expectations are. Children who are aware of their parents’ expectations are not only more likely to meet these, but also feel more safe and secure.

What will your rules be?